Looking back at my first few days in rural Zambia, it’s always amazing how many things went unnoticed. The inability to understand the local language is just a single barrier to understanding life in the village. On my first few days in the village I lacked familiarity with unwritten codes, behaviour, and the various people who were coming and going in the village all proved to be a bigger barrier to me truly being aware of my surroundings.
We were out in the field, biking alongside each other on a path that was cutting through prepared fields and forests making our way to the next village. I was again with the agent who was introducing me to many farmers. I wanted to see what value he provides to those in his community. To make sure I could still hear him, I kept my bike close.
The day earlier a few men from another village visited ours. In traditional manner they were all seated together and have already been greeted by the elders and village headman. I joined them brushing away the sharp rocks from the ground next to one of the mud huts and sat down. We spoke about farming, Zambia, and how I managed to end up in front of them from Canada and after a few hours of talk they bid us farewell and left. I thought nothing of it. I believed they were another group of well-wishers who came to give their respects and condolences to the agent I was working with who just buried his daughter.
I was told the truth of the meeting while we were biking on that path. “Those men, Anton, they believe that it is unsafe for my wife to be here in our village. They took her back to her home village away from me. But what can I do, I cannot refuse their wishes. I can only keep working.”
He couldn’t see my face behind him, but I could only show shock as I realized how much this man was going through in just the first week I was with him. The loss of his daughter and now the loss of his wife. I could only respond with a “mhmmm really? She is now gone?”. “Yes, they took all her things yesterday”.
It was like hitting a brick wall. He told me then what challenges he was facing day to day. He also, in that same moment, showed me how unaware of them I really was.

